Tools

When you are dealing with one whose actions are difficult for you, step back and breathe.  Get some distance until you gain perspective.  Another who displays a great need to control is actually quite insecure emotionally.  Any resistance or pushing back on your part will cause their insecurities to peak and they will become even more recalcitrant and controlling. 

As in all of life, you have many choices.  Let the other have their way, walk away, or deal with them in bits and pieces with as much love as you can muster.  Whatever path you choose, see the other with compassion, for they would not be so controlling were they not trying to cover up great pain.  Lucky for you, you have at your disposal great tools for dealing with such challenges.  Rise above to gain perspective.  Laugh at yourself and the other as you say, “Isn’t that interesting!” and then choose with love how you will respond.